I am learning lately. Not just from classes and books, but about life in general and about myself. It is a lot like excercise. I have made a list of similarities I see:
- You must do both in order to be healthy.
- Sometimes you hate it while its happening because it hurts so much.
- They both make you exhausted.
- They both make you stronger.
- They both make you more aware of what you allow to enter you body/mind.
- They teach you what you can and cannot handle.
- If you give either one too much focus, they distort your reality about life.
- Their results are ongoing, and clearly show you why what you are doing is not only beneficial, but necessary.
- The both make you want to eat more; one because you are more hungry, the other because you are so tired of thinking.
Any comments?
~Nicole
It is a lot like exercising. Of course, i've always thought about things way too much, but- you'll laugh at this- I've just recently signed up to run 5 miles as part of a marathon. Yes, me. Go ahead, tell jokes about my laziness...........
ReplyDeleteOk, joke time is done, but seriously, it requires a lot of disciple. And you make mistakes sometimes. Sometimes you overdo it and sometimes you don't do enough... it's all about achieving the right balance. So it's like thinking and life really- you have to achieve a correct balance between reflection and doing if you're ever going to live a full life.
It's a good thing that you're starting to look at things differently. :) I'd love to hear more about it.
~Lindsay
Nicole, I really love that last paragraph. I think we can all absolutely learn from that.
ReplyDeleteLindsay, go you!
"Currently, I am facing a new change in my thinking. I am being challenged to see myself and my decisions separated from those of others. Because of this, I am also being forced to recognize that other people's decisions are not my fault."
ReplyDeleteI think that this is really super important to realize... I've been thinking a lot about various things and the way that other people in my life have interpreted all the things that happen or don't happen to me as their responsibility. So im coming from the other side on this one I guess, and I can honestly say, that when someone else sees your decisions as their own personal failure or as their responsibility that it sucks. Bigtime. And the reason that it sucks so much is that they start to force decisions on you or to force other people to accept you, or they just naturally start to try to form your life into their own definition of perfect. And it's not done intentionally, but when someone views you that way you become both dominated or/and alienated from them. You don't feel like you can tell them things about your life because they'll worry. And, if you're laid back about what's going on then you start to let this person make decisions for you and you don't grow. I know that's pretty broad, and a public blog isn't the place to work out specifics (that would be tacky) but maybe, in your process of working it out, it'll help you to see it from the other side a bit. :) I love you and I can't wait to see you!
~Lindsay
I'm confused, linds. What other side do i need to see it from? I got lost somewhere, haha sorry!
ReplyDeletehaha, sorry about that. I may have misinterpreted your post a bit. I was thinking about other conversations that we've had about how you tend to put too much pressure on yourself when it comes to other people's actions. Like how if they do something wrong you assume that you could have done something to have stopped it, etc.
ReplyDeleteThis is what I assumed that you were referencing when you said that you were learning to see your actions as seperate from others.
And I was just saying that when people put that kind of pressure on themselves that they normally end up pressuring the people around them, the ones who they feel overly-responsible for, to be a certain way and it can even get to a point where they begin to make decisions for others.
It's like how over-protective parents plan their kids lives because they get really scared about their kids making a mistake. Not calling you an over-protective parent by any means though.
Does that make more sense? It might be easier to explain with hand motions.
~Lindsay